1. Nobody hangs out anymore in packs.
In your teens and twenties people would just get together everyday to hang out, even if they weren’t doing anything but sitting around watching tv. Day after day people would just hang. It lead to some fun times and crazy creative things.
In your thirties you have to plan get togethers and even then you have to pull people’s legs to get them to commit to anything. As well as work around various schedules.
2. Everyone becomes so conservative.
Even your “liberal” left wing so called “progressive” friends become sticks in the mud when you talk about sex or doing something crazy. You know they understand and used to talk about it or do it all the time but it’s as if they suddenly are “playing” grown up and stick their noses up about such things because they desperately don’t want to look immature. Meanwhile you’re thinking to yourself “I’ve known you for over 15 years, who are you trying to fool?”
3. No one, including yourself, has any energy anymore.
You mean well, but you just can’t make it past that 4th beer or past midnight at the bar for your friends birthday becuase you’re not used to staying up that late anymore.
4. Your Facebook feed becomes a constant stream of baby photos and political debates.
You wonder where all the angsty teenage/early twenty something drama went and you long for it again. You miss it.
5. Relationships become requirements
If you’re not married or in a long term relationship, people start to wonder what is wrong with you and if you fuck up relationships on purpose. Forget about meeting new people at parties, everyone is already married or with someone. On top of that you’re too old for the suburban bar/club scene and it doesn’t matter anyway because all the attractive guys and girls who would make for good life partners and marriage material aren’t there anyway. They are at home with their significant others, probably planning their wedding and browsing a wedding dress site such as this one or buying their first house together and/or starting a family.
6. Kinky encounters don’t happen.
Forget about that threesome fantasy or that bedding a hot 19 year old girl fantasy because you’re too old now. Threesomes happen when groups of young teenage/twenty something friends are hanging out all the time getting drunk and stupid and wild. By your thirties you’re too old, fat and tired to attract the young sexy people and your group of friends are either married with kids or act too conservative and “past that phase” to ever even entertain such an idea. Don’t even bring it up to them in jest because you’ll get labeled a creep no matter if you’re a guy or a girl.
7. You slowly but surely begin to realize that all of this is your new life and it’s not going to get better, only worse as the decades move on.
You’ll never be able to go back to your teens or twenties again. You’ll never be young, sexy, capable of partying all night or be able to fall back on your parents when times get tough. You can no longer get away with dressing crazy and experimental, you cant run around places for free anymore without getting smacked with trespassing or getting sued. If you want to shoot a movie or photos or do anything creative involving more than just yourself, other people expect you to pay them for their time. You can’t lose your decent job in an economic downturn and expect to get a crappy temporary job that pays minimum wage because your age automatically “overqualifies” you.
So enjoy your teens and twenties while you can. Enjoy all your petty little drama and your “love life” issues, because when you hit your thirties, you’re going to miss all of it. Unless you’re one of the lucky ones who is married with kids and then you still miss it because you feel trapped in your situation. You’re with the person you are with and in the situation you are in partly because you love them, partly because you want the kid(s) to have two parents, partly because you know there isn’t anyone better anymore and partly because you just don’t have the energy to change things and start over. You understand that the person you’re with probably feels the same way and you accept that they accept that, just as you do.
But even if you could go back, you wouldn’t. Because you aren’t the same person anymore. Even if you had the energy, youth, sex appeal and time, you’ve already been there. You’ve grown past most of it and you can’t even fathom how you would get it back in any new and menaingful kind of way. You understand too much about the way both people and the world work now. You’re too tainted and desensitized by it all to return to that bliss and uncertainty of your younger years.
Plus there is a certain sense of stability that begins to blossom in your 30’s. A stability you once relied on your parents for but you now create for yourself and possibly your kids if you have any. So as much as you bitch and moan about all of the above, you wouldn’t trade it for your younger years if you could. But every so often you do wish you could get some of those things back in little bite sized pieces to enjoy for just an evening or a day.