Failure of character maybe?
I just find it funny that women even ask this question. Shouldn’t it be obvious that women make themselves up to look like candy sex objects. All glossy and tight and curvy and smooth, smelling and looking nice. All done up. Making themselves look like treats before our eyes. Even when they are barely trying.
Then they have the audacity to ask “why do men want to lick so many lollipops?”
If you’re in a candy store filled with goodies of all shapes and sizes, all colors and flavors, do you want to try only one? Do you want to spend the rest of your life eating only caramel?
It’s really not difficult to understand where the temptation lies. Not difficult at all.
But unlike a candy store where one piece of candy doesn’t get jealous and upset when you put your tongue on another, people do. Most guys realize this and refrain from cheating. Character. Standards. Yes. But it can be very difficult for a guy. Almost unnaturally difficult.
We may love you for you. We may love you for you very much. But our sex drive is primal and spurred by our desire to touch and taste and conquer. This primal drive could certainly get the best of many men.
But what I find very interesting is how many women cheat. So even though they ask the question of men, there seems to be many of them that do it as well. I’ll tell you that in my personal life alone, of all the women I have been friends with (just friends) and all the men I have been friends with, most of the guys have never cheated, but at least half of the women have. That is by no means a solid representation of the whole of society. But as a statistic in my personal life, it makes me wonder why women even ask why men cheat when obviously they’re just as guilty if not moreso.
A man may cheat as a sense of accomplishment and lust. It’s not easy for a man to cheat. For a women to cheat she must simply bend and tell a man, any man where to put it. Seven times out of ten he probably will. For a man to decide to go out and cheat is hard, it doesn’t just fall in his lap. He can’t just go to the bar one night and come home with a girl. He has to 1. find a girl who is only looking for sex and 2. find a way for her to want him. Neither of which is easy. Believe me, it was hard enough when I was single. I don’t dare try it when in a relationship.For more reasons then the fact that it’s hard.
But it goes to show that if a women wants to cheat she easily can. So when they do, they do.
Now maybe my point of view on that is skewed. I’m sure there are guys who get to go home with girls almost every night they go out. But I’ve never met one and I’m certainly not one myself. It would take me months and months before even finding a girl who would kiss me. I’ve never had a one night stand. I’ve never had a girl knowingly want to get with me even when I had a girlfriend. So I’ve personally never been tempted. So considering how rare it is for guys and how primal we are when it comes to sex, I’m really not sure I can question a guys character who cheats. Sure I can tell him it’s wrong, but I’m not sure I can call him a bad guy. He is a guy.