Girlfriend: “Are you thinking about that girl’s ass in the spandex pants we saw at the bookstore?”
Girlfriend: “I am. I wanted you to pound her”
The Result: I couldn’t help thinking about how hot my girlfriend is.
I’ve been in relationships where I’ve been afraid to tell my significant other about other people I find attractive. And the idea of saying something during sex would have been even more off limits and would have lead to a major argument. With Melissa it’s different. We’re open with each other. I think we have a very mature point of view on sex, relationships and love. There is a difference between fantasy and reality. Not all fantasies should become realities and sometimes the fantasies alone are more powerful and better then the reality.
Now the two of us don’t go around all the time making comments about other people or fantasies. Too often would be too much I think. There is a balance that needs to be created. But we both realize we are human and people are attracted to a lot of different types of people for a lot of different reasons. I know she looks at other people and so do I. I can acknowledge when another guy is hot or has a particular part of his body that is good looking and she can do the same with women. If she sees a girl in a bookstore wearing spandex pants with a nice ass, her thinking is “I think that’s hot so I know he will too”. I’m the same way. Trying to deny your significant other their natural thoughts and where their mind sways is impossible. Condemning them for it is even more ridiculous. Saying nothing is possible and sometimes respectful. But if you’re not open enough to be able to recognize these things with each other, do you really know and accept the one you love?