Religious people get so uptight about sex. For instance. Of the seven deadly sins they come down most on lust. How many times to you see them coming down on people for gluttony? Not too often. You know why lust is the most talked about? Because it’s the most interesting. Because it’s all about jealousy, envy, fear and power and it dates back to the beginning of humanity, long before organized religions.
God doesn’t want you sleeping around before marriage. God doesn’t want you having homosexual experiences. God doesn’t want you masturbating (yeah they’ve loosened up on this one). The list goes on.
In the Islamic world they still treat women like property. Something that at least most modern day Christians have evolved out of. Well in first world countries anyway.
However where does this all come from? I think it’s pretty clear and the answer is not God.
Mankind hasn’t evolved that much in our time here. Early men were just as much into sex as guys are today. Many would want to take a women or several women for their own. As if they were their property. The women themselves would just be concerned whether they themselves and their young would be taken care of. Obviously men who had more then one woman would make other men jealous or envious.
“If he can have two or three, why can’t I?”
Men who took women wanted those women to be virgins. They didn’t want them violated by another man first. Like buying a used car versus buying a new car. After all why should a man get something used if he can get something new? Right? So the idea of marriages came about. Both as a way to link families together and as a way to make sure that the “property” (the woman) was legally and religiously bound to the man. Of course the man could still sleep around in most cases. But God forbid the woman should do it, because after all she is his property.
From a females perspective, she wanted to keep her man and usually in most cases would become jealous of him with other women. The core reason being because if he took interest in another women he may give up taking care of her and her young. So marriage works for a womans benefit in that way. Even if she is still the property of her man.
It’s pretty easy to look back and see how all of this came about. Which only makes it even easier to understand why religion would get in on the game and say that “God said this” to bring in that fear element and keep people in line.
But we live in the modern world now. At least here in the United States and other first world countries. We have systems in place and women are no longer property. We don’t need the fear of God keeping us in line. We have tens of thousands of years of human history we can look back on to help us understand how we work. We’ve gone through a lot of trial and error to understand. Not to mention we have such things as birth control, condoms, women who support themselves, child support where men are held responsible and so on. All of this changes the landscape when it comes to sex. The old world did things a certain way because they didn’t have these things. But we don’t live in the old world anymore and it’s time some people start to accept that fact.
If someone wants to be a certain way, like wait till marriage for sex or not masturbate or something. That’s fine. But “God says” is not a reason to tell other people to be that same way. I’d like to think we’ve come out of the dark ages some time ago. I know it takes time for things to change. Obviously we’re always going to tell other people what they can and cannot do. That’s just how societies work. But the God exuse is an old one that doesn’t work with everyone anymore. So if religious people enjoy their way of life and want to make a positive impression on others, they need to use cold hard facts and if they aren’t really facts and just more like beliefs, well those don’t stand as much ground.