This entry stems from a comment I made here.
As a man, an open relationship seems like the best of both worlds; love with one special person and sex with multiple partners.
I know that open relationships work for some couples. I’ve read about them. But I just don’t think the reality of such a thing would work for me. I’ve never been a guy who has attracted all the ladies. I guess it’s because I’m quiet if I don’t really know you well. Nor do I have a lot to say about everything. I’m not the type to just chime in about whatever you’re talking about. Also throughout my relationship history, my girlfriends female friends have never really liked me all that much. I don’t know why.
It’s for these reasons that my partner count is so low even though my sex drive is so high.
I’ve really only hit it off with certain ladies and usually they have become my girlfriend for an extended period of years.
With all of that said, being in an open relationship for me would be hell. I’d be out failing left and right while my girlfriend is scoring anyone she sets her eyes on. Because let’s face it. Even a fairly attractive women can get meaningless sex anytime she wants. All she has to do is be brave enough to say she wants it. It would really fuck with my ego and I would feel like Im sharing my girlfriend and not getting anything in return. I would basically feel like a fucking chump. Like I’m less of a man because I can’t get any side pussy myself, but I’m cool with every Tom, Dick and Harry boning my girl.
I would be jealous and envious and I totally admit it’s a selfish thing. Because if I could score as much as she could, I’d be all about it. But I know that wouldn’t be the reality.
I also just can’t see where either of us would find the time. We don’t live together and only see each other a few days a week as is. Work and other things take up the rest of our time. So I don’t know where we would even fit in the time to find new partners without sacrificing our time together. At which point, why even be together? Why not just be single and be fuck buddies once every week or two? That doesn’t work. It’s much harder to transition of relationship of love where you have been together for years as partners and then suddenly you’d just fuck buddies. Those never last more than a couple months and ten you never see each their again and the love part gets forgotten. It’s basically breakup fucking while you transition out of being in love with each other.
All of that said, I think open relationships only work for people who are highly personable and who would otherwise find themselves in a lot of cheating situations if it weren’t for the fact that they opened up their relationship to make these situations acceptable. I also think they would have to start that relationship that way or live together and have a lot of free time to find partners. But more than anything, for most guys to be cool with it, I would think that he would need to be getting just as much action as she was.
Just my two cents.