Gender roles exist and have existed from the start of humanity. Classically these gender roles look like this:
Female: Soft spoken, caring, motherly, nurturing, supportive, emotional, seductive, submissive and sexy.
Male: Hunter, gatherer, protector, outspoken, dominate, head of home, strong, unemotional and logical.
Now there have always been exceptions. There always will be. While these may be classic stereotypical gender roles, often people will not fit them perfectly every second of their entire life. Humanity is a fluid thing.
Enter the feminist movement.
Positive: The goal of which was to gain equal rights for women.
Negative: The extreme of which was to consider men the enemy.
Generally speaking this has been a good thing for western society. Over the last several decades women have gained many rights and social acceptability they previously lacked. Today, modern women can be found attending college, joining the workforce, owning their own businesses, buying their own homes and real estate, taking political positions in government and raising a family without the support of a male.
A women can now go and work on a construction site or in a factory and be given similar respect, pay and benefits as their male coworkers. At least usually. It’s all still a work in progress but has definitely come a long way.
Women today have made strong leads into being fully rounded individuals. They have taken many of the attributes of the classic male gender role and have made them part of what it is to be a woman in the modern world.
Today movies glorify women who kick ass on screen right after saying those cheesy one-liners that their male action star counter parts have also been dishing out for years.
It’s not uncommon to see a women dressed in male clothes doing male things and considered by all to be independent, strong and sexy all at the same time. Danica Patrick anyone?
This is great for society and women. It’s a true evolution of social norms and where the world needs to be headed. There is just one problem…. men are falling behind.
While a modern women today can go out and work a construction job, getting all dirty and being tough and smart all day long. She can then come home to her own house, take a shower, slip on a miniskirt, knee highs and a low cut shirt, don the mascara and lipstick and head out on the town to play the part of a classic womens gender role. In the same day she can slip from one gender extreme to the other and be completely socially accepted for it. Without anyone questioning her sexuality or character. In fact the reverse is true, she is considered a role model for being both strong, independent and sexy.
A man on the other hand, isn’t given such socially acceptable liberties. If a man were to come home from the same construction job and decide he wants to go out on the town expressing a feminine gender role by dressing the same way as the woman in the example above. He is not only looked at strangely by both men and women, but his sexual orientation is also called into question. He also faces the possibility of discrimination and violence.
While things are beginning to change slowly because of the gay rights movement and the creation of the term “metrosexual” for straight men with more style. Neither one of these types are fully accepted into society without ridicule. Even guys who wear guyliner (eyeliner are given a second look by both males and females that’s usually not positive.
If women today are accepted for playing both sides of the gender coin at their whim and not only be socially accepted for it, but also praised for it, then men should be given the same social acceptance to do the same thing.
I believe that in the coming decades men will give in to embrace their feminine side more and more. Culture and society will shift to where men will pay as much attention to the details of their look and sexuality as women do. I can see it already in the generation right now. Guys wearing girl jeans, eyeliner and paying a lot of attention to their hair.
I can see an entire industry popping up for male cosmetics in certain colors and styles that compliment male features, without being considered female. The same will be true of clothing. Men will still be men and women will still be women, a line will still exist, but the line will blur considerably. Twenty years from now if you were to walk out in public and see a guy in tights, knee high boots and lipstick you might not think anything of it, because it won’t be feminine looking, it won’t look like the same get-up the girls are wearing. But it will still convey the same message; sex appeal.
But what needs to happen is for not only men to accept their inner feminine side, but also for women to stop laughing it off when they see a guy doing it and instead accept it a positive characteristic. A guy who is not only a man but also in touch with his other side. A whole person, just like modern women. His sexual orientation never being a question because of the way he’s dressed.
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