There is man code and then there is man code. That code will vary depending on the guy you ask. To some people like myself, man code dictates that you don’t date your best buddies ex or even fool around with her. But other guys follow a man code that says differently. Their version of the code says “she’s free game now, of course I’m going to go there, it’s easy, she already knows me.”
I’ve even heard guys apologize for their best buddy sleeping with their girlfriend by saying “she’s the whore here, he was just following his cock like any of us guys would do.”
According to this theory men are incapable of controlling themselves. The blame is squarely on the female because after all, if a decent looking girl is offering up her pussy to you, how can you, as a man, honestly refuse? Even if she is your best friends girlfriend and you prodded her into it by flirting the hell out of her when she was blasted drunk.
Now in this situation the female is certainly to blame for cheating, but should the best buddy really go there?
What if the two of them broke up a month ago and had been dating for a couple of years prior and the guy isn’t totally over her yet?
Which version of man code do you subscribe to?
I thought this was going to be about weenies! I GOT TRICKED. REFUND
@ShimmerBodyCream – It’s already unanimous that people on xanga (guys and girls) don’t want to see weenies. Otherwise I would hold a weenie contest complimentary to my booty contest.
@ShimmerBodyCream – lol I thought the same thing
I personally would love to wait until the man is totally over it, but the girl is free. If you break up, you breakup for a reason. If you still want her or still pine for her, you should not have broken up. But it also helps to be respectful to the girl, and let her shake off the breakup before diving in. After all, reounds aren’t always such a good idea. It’s common sense right there.
@roxics – betterdesigned beat you to that idea once anyway. Haha!
i always see friend’s boyfriends or exes as off limits. i would want the same respect. unless, of course if they are interested, she can at least ask me. haha.
most guys seem to go with the “she was there” code.
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@roxics – NO ITS NOT. SO NEXT TIME I BETTER SEE SOME DICK, ASSHOLE!
@mynameisblueskye – The only thing is, breakups can be difficult and not always end nicely. If your best buddy starts dating your ex that means you are still seeing her all the time. I’m just personally of the philosophy that there are plenty of fish in the sea and you don’t really need to be going after your buddies ex. It just seems like a cheap, effortless and weaselly way to get a date in my opinion. Not to mention what you could be doing to your friendship with your buddy.
I consider the few friendships I maintain worth maintaining, and know factually that my friends would state the same.
@ShimmerBodyCream – You should host the next contest for the best dick on xanga or soemthing, if betterdesigned isn’t doing it next year.
I don’t normally follow “man code”… hehe, but I think that if it’s been a while, I mean a LONG while after the break-up, who’s to say it’s wrong. What if three years down the road you some how run into your best friend’s ex and she’s free? If you’re both single and have some chemistry what’s wrong with it? I honestly feel this way with my girlfriends. If she just ran in before the sheets were cold then, yeah, I’d have a problem, but if it’s years later, I don’t think I’d mind too much. (Of course I wouldn’t want to hang out with them a lot though)
@JessxMaxine – Exactly.
@ShimmerBodyCream – No need to get violent. There is plenty of dick on the internet.
@mynameisblueskye – then they’ll think I’m biased when you win.
@roxics – I guess it depends on which end it went bad for in that nasty breakup.
@ShimmerBodyCream – Then use me as the example. haha!
It depends on the guy and it depends on the girl. I wouldn’t date any of my ex’s close friends, just out of respect for my ex. I would never ever ever cheat on anyone either.
@roxics – This is a serious issue! It’s bait and switch!
@ShimmerBodyCream – As did I. =(
As for the ex/man code thing (and there’s a similar female “code” for this…), I think it depends on the people involved and the situation.
‘Cause, really, one always *can* sleep with a friend’s girlfriend or ex (assuming she lets you). The question is whether the friend will be okay with one doing so, and whether remaining on good terms with said friend is worth not doing something to damage them.
@ShimmerBodyCream – I don’t show nudity on this blog, that’s why I created http://roxicsunderground.xanga.com/
ahh I know I am a girl but first no I don’t date my friends ex’s too many guy out there to deal with that drama second if a friend wanted to date my ex I would say have at it casue if I am done with them then I am done plus theres usually something terribly wrong with all the guts I date so she see soon enough.
Guy wise guys almost have no moral code they will talk their friends down to get to their girlfreinds. I once had my best friend at the times boyfriend who happened to me my boyfriends Step brother ( yes I know complicated ) Completly force himself on me I literally had to put a box in front of my face to get him to stop trying to kiss me while we were waiting in the car for his girlfriend. Two weeks later they were boys again . I mean wtf .
@ShimmerBodyCream – @unabridgedtales – @SimplyNita – Here you go ladies. NSFW! http://roxicsunderground.xanga.com/727732784/kinda-gay—pics-of-nude-guys-nsfw/
Respect comes before Man Code. If you disrespect someone you can’t use Man Code as an excuse.
wait…men follow codes?
Okay. My general rule is: I don’t date a friend’s ex without permission. But sometimes it gets cloudy, because some people are acquaintances. They don’t rank in the friend category. For example: a friend of mine was seeing this chick who was the wife of an acquaintance. Now, this wife was divorcing the acquaintance, and my friend and the wife eventually ended things. Still she got divorced. Now, I ended up hooking up with her for a while with permission from my friend, but never let the acquaintance in on it… He found out eventually.
The other time I might have broke this rule was that I started seeing a friend’s ex when I was interested, and she obviously was, and the friend she dated told me “she’s cool. you should date her.” I took that as a green light, but kept it on the downlow. It turned out he was still really into her, so why he gave me the nod is still confusing. But who cares now, because they both aren’t in my life now, and I’ve moved on to much better pastures.