When I was in high school there were a few “popular” girls who probably got around. But none of us ever really knew. We just sort of suspected. Everything was hush hush. Most people got into relationships and stayed in them for a while.
The first time I had intercourse I was 17 years old. By this point I had already had about 5 girlfriends. I messed around with a few of them, but none of them would ever give it up completely to me until I was a senior in high school.
I look around at peoples blog posts and it seems the generation that is even ten years younger then me is filled with girls that are giving it up all over the place at far younger ages. It seems like there are a lot of girls and guys taht by the time they reach senior year in high school they’ve been full on with ten people. Shit I’ve only ever been full on with 10 people in my entire life and I’m 31. What in the world changed in such a short period of time! On top of that, how did I get screwed out of not getting screwed more often! Lol
Seriously though, I don’t want to call this younger generation of girls that are 21 and under “sluts” because I really don’t believe there is anything wrong with them wanting sex. I just find it amazing that younger women these days act like guys. They look at porn and they go out with guys just to have sex with them. Even my nephew who is six years younger than me made a comment saying “Man all of these girls I meet just want to have sex, none of them want a relationship.” I was left looking at him with the strangest expression on my face that said “aaaannnndddd you have a problem with this? Man I’d love to have that problem. You know how hard I had to fight when I was younger just to get a girl to let me touch her tits!!!”
The only thing I can think of is that the internet is to blame. Along with pop culture backing it up. I don’t really know. But if the internet is any sign of it, man younger girls these days are sluts (in a good way) and I would so love to be an 18 year old guy today. Lol
Hmmm the only difference is girls have to pretend like they’re not having sex like a man. It’s okay to lie, but it’s not okay to get yours. I’ll never understand.
I wouldn’t want to be an 18 year old guy now, just because of all this sexual activity and kids being so under educated and stupid, they’re spreading stupid diseases around.
I like the chase. People who give it up too easy are not fun. You can still be “slutty” in your terms but still be a coy vixen who makes you work to get what you want, which is fun.
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Don’t you mean you’d like to be a 17 year old guy. You forgot the magic line.
LOL I don’t think it has anything to do with the internet, but maybe it does have something to do iwth society.
You know you’re getting old when you start suspecting youth culture is ruining kids today.
I think people are just starting to realize that women are also sexual beings, and that that’s okay. Hopefully the pendulum won’t swing too far in the opposite direction and make us all sex-crazed maniacs.
Haha, people in general are very horny today. If you really think about it, sex is everywhere ppl are constantly gettting turned on lol.
Lol going on 23 in a matter of days and all of that is very much true about me. Lost the ability to count them on both hands as a senior in college and on all my fingers and toes a few years later.
@RedheadAblaze – yeah. Guys have double standards. They want a lot of slutty girls they can sleep with to get their numbers up and have fun. Because guys like variety. But I think there is just a certain expectation that a lot of guys just don’t want to marry a girl who has been with a ton of people. it’s not something a lot of guys seriously expect anymore, that they’re wife to be is virginal, but I think the closer to the it the better in most guys minds.
@GiantUnicorn – STD’s were around even before my generation. I’m sure it’s probably gotten worse. But it was always something to look out for. Still hasn’t stopped people from ever fucking around. Nor will it ever.
@Da__Vinci – Lol. Hey I’d just be happy with 18 at this point.
@they_call_me_steffyjean – I don’t think you can separate the internet from society today. The younger generation probably spends more time online than they do in front of the TV. When I was 17/18 the internet was a very different landscape. It was just starting to become what it is today. We were coming out of the AOL/Prodigy/BBS era and the whole WWW was just starting to take off. There weren’t a bunch of hot regular 18 year old girls posting pictures of themselves all over personal blogs and youtube the way they are today. The internet was still mostly reserved for geeky guys. You might be able to get some flirting in an AOL chat room but that was pretty much it. So the internet definitely defines society today.
@NikBv – I’m not sure I’d call it ‘ruining” so much as I’m a little envious I wasn’t born 10 years later. But that’s just my “male” desires coming out of me. Overall I liked the time I grew up in.
@roxics – “@RedheadAblaze – yeah. Guys have double standards. They want a lot of slutty girls they can sleep with to get their numbers up and have fun. Because guys like variety. But I think there is just a certain expectation that a lot of guys just don’t want to marry a girl who has been with a ton of people. it’s not something a lot of guys seriously expect anymore, that they’re wife to be is virginal, but I think the closer to the it the better in most guys minds.”
But isn’t the reason guys don’t want to be with women who’ve been around is because they fear they will fail to measure up?
This defines the basic difference in the way men and women view sex. Women don’t keep score like men do, they just want to be loved, but men have to make a pissing contest out of it.
I’ll grant you that it’s human nature for men and women to act/feel the way they do, but hell, sometimes I feel like killing people, but it’s not right and I’d have some pretty hefty consequences to pay.
There are things we just shouldn’t do. This touches on the current controversy on Shamelesslyred and Morethiel’s post’s. It seems to be the xanga theme this week.
@RedheadAblaze – Slut’s come in both sexes.
@AmeSoeur – I think women in general just don’t care anymore about holding back. I think these younger girls that have grown up with Brittany Spears and shows like Sex in the City (as well as naked woman at their finger tips all over the internet) have just decided that they too can be sexual and everyone will love them for it. The ones who won’t are probably just jealous ugly bitches. Lol
It seems that every decade that goes by, girls get a little more sexual freedom. I grew up with Madonna being the racy one. Today there are 1000’s of Madonnas out there. Shit there are 15 year old girls dancing in their underwear on youtube. When I was a 15 year old boy my friends and I would have thought we would have died and gone to heaven if we even found a polaroid of a girl in our school that was in her undies.
@openmindedgirlk – Yeah. I think that’s always been true. But I think that people can get to it at their finger tips more readily these days. I really do think the internet is to blame for that. I mean think about it. What would your life be like right now if the internet were not around. Would you know as much as you do? Would you see as many pictures of girls in panties as you do?
@striemmy – I hate you. :)
@roxics – Lol I had a commitment to achieving my sexual goals. Lost it by my second relationship my second year. Determination pays. =)
@Da__Vinci – I
agree. The numbers don’t really add up. You can’t expect that every guy
in the world should be able to sleep with fifty girls and then marry a
virgin. Where is that virgin coming from?
You’re right though, for guys it’s a pissing contest. It’s bragging
rights. It’s also variety. Guys at their primitive core want to collect
woman like they collect baseball cards, comic books, or classic cars.
Or whatever. Since we can no longer “own” the women like property we
instead conquest for them in the sheets. Does this make it right for guys to act this way? Probably not. But it seems that the younger generation of women have pretty much given up on calling guys out for this and instead joined in the fun, even if they don’t “keep count.” Or so it seems anyway.
At least that’s my impression. But I could just be overwhelmed by so many women talking about their sexual ventures in one place (xanga) that it just seems like they’re all acting in this way.
@roxics – umm yeah internet is great, I think ur right about that. It makes so easy to watch, find naughty things. Btw I don’t really look at girls in their panties, lol.
@roxics – Xanga has always had a few girls, (I say girls because they are so young they couldn’t possibly know what real sex is all about), going around acting like sex experts, when it’s painfully obvious they are working though some catharsis over thinking they are sluts. Which they are. I fail to see why anyone even respond to them anymore, but then again I look at things from a point in life that they have yet to achieve, experience.
Too bad things like that catch on to the other girls though, it’s nice to have a conversation with someone of the opposite sex without having to worry about it turning to sex all the time.
@Da__Vinci – hahahaha, point.
Wow, I feel extremely old fashioned then because I’m 18, and still a virgin…Bad thing?
along with this younger generation becoming more openly obsessed with sex is also a rise in STDs and teen pregnancies. its quite disgusting if you ask me. at my old school there are JUNIOR HIGH kids bragging about giving oral. >.< i didnt even get my first kiss until I was a sophomore in high school and i never did anything remotely sexual until the end of my junior year. i wouldnt think it would be as thrilling if you knew you could just ask a girl to have sex and get it right then and there. id rather put up a fight and work for it. when you start getting things given to you too easily you lose appreciation and satisfaction for it.
craigslist
@marissa_and_her_darkness – I’m 19 and still a virgin. =) Not bad.
@Da__Vinci – “it’s nice to have a conversation with
someone of the opposite sex without having to worry about it turning to
sex all the time.”
Indeed.
@marissa_and_her_darkness – You are on the opposite end of the spectrum that is out there these days. it seems that with the extreme movement of certain girls on one end there is another extreme of girls on the other end who remain “virgins” until their mid twenties or so. I see a lot of girls like you, so don’t feel too old fashioned. It seems to be a modern things as well.
What seems harder to find these days are girls talking about the one possibly two guys they’ve been with sexually (while in long relationships). The so called “moderates.” Although I’m sure they’re around in numbers. Maybe they’re just not as vocal as the two extremes.
@NadoAngel – Both of these things have been around for a long time.
@Uek – I’m not looking. If anything, from time to time I slip up and I envy those who have gotten to be with a lot of people. That’s the sexual side of me coming out. But the realistic side of me never acted out on these things for a reason. Still trying to figure out what that reason is, but I think it’s some greater moral core inside of me I have yet to logically realize sometimes.
I can’t believe this post has gotten two rec’s. It’s so sloppy. It was more or less written from a passing thought. Not even 100% sure I believe what I wrote above myself.
@roxics – I meant craigslist/adult/services.
I honestly blame it on underage drinking and parties. I graduated in 2007 .. and I knew of people that were having threesomes, giving blow jobs to multiple guys in a night, having sex in open areas during parties. They would have parties every night they could. By the time we graduated we had 4 out of the 60 students in my class pregnant without their baby daddy’s around.. Some of them are working on their 2nd or 3rd child with other men.
Luckily, I was a little smarter than these people.
I was 17 when I lost my virginity to a 21 year old that wanted nothing more than to use me.
Yes, I went to parties but they were never like these.
Yes, I have had a one night stand.
Yes, I have been tested for STDs.
I am 21 and have been with 4 guys. I hate even hearing that number.
But there really isn’t much I can do about it now.
I just hope I can fully educate my children about the sex and prevent them from having regrets.
There’s humor in your entry and I love it, but you are right. Girls these days are faster than lightning and I see this everyday to the point that I’m shocked of how young they really are.
Even though women are becoming more equal in certain area’s, they still catch a lot of slack when it comes to her sexual history. The line between men and women is very thin, but for women, society tends to stretch and pull it to every way they want. To be honest, it isn’t really fair how men get competitive when it comes to women, regardless if their looking for just sex or marriage. A woman’s sexual history is her own. I don’t think a man would enjoy sex as much with an inexperience lady as he would with an experienced woman. As far as I know, women don’t really care about a man’s sexual history (numbers).
When it comes to “jumping in the sack” too early, I feel that the women have a line of thinking that goes something like this: If she’s only physically/sexually attracted to the guy and KNOWS there won’t be much of a future with him, she’s more inclined to rush into sex. Women have high libidos as well, so engaging in sex early isn’t much of a problem. However; When she feels that everything needed for a relationship is there, she tends to back off with the sex and gets to know the man better. To a woman, sex can wait. The sex seems better and she gets an emotional closeness.
A lot of the time, environment has a lot to do with how a girl acts sexually. Peer pressure and her family life can have a huge impact on her as well. Roxics, you came from… let’s say a middle class neighborhood and I came from a lower class neighborhood. The girls in my Middle school and High School were very sexually active. Actual studies have been done on this subject. What they found was people with lower annual incomes had larger families than those who had a higher income. My intake on this is, they get bored so they have sex. The scientific reason is procreation. People with less money seem to die sooner (lack of health care, cost of healthy foods ect)
I’m not saying that I truly believe the reasoning, but it is a known fact that people with low incomes have more sex.
As little girls growing up, they see their peers and their families having sex, so they feel it is normal behavior.
I saw on television the other day that 1 out of 3 teens are engaging in unprotected sex. Most of these teens contract an STD. Because they are young, these teens neglect telling their partners they have an STD and in turn it affects MILLIONS. It’s really sad that these youngsters are having sex, because they are uneducated and immature. One of the girls they interviewed was 16 years old, already had 9 partners since the age of 13, contracted 2 STD’s and has a child. Can you believe that!
But… my point is that women (mature women), should be allowed to experiment and find who they are sexually without any judgment from other people. They also should be able to have loving and healthy relationships that aren’t based on their sexual history. I can understand the fear of STD’s, but men really should understand that women (genetically) have sex drives just as high as men. Back in the “good ol’ days”, women didn’t talk about their sexual conquests because it was “unlady like”, but now… It’s a little more accepted, but men still view us as sluts. What’s wrong with this picture…
@TheSeventhRhapsody – I agree with you about the rights and the non judgment toward women. But it does happen because guys are competitive.
I disagree however on the sex drive part. I think there are some woman who have a high sex drive. Such as yourself. But the vast majority of girls don’t have nearly as high of a drive as men do.
@roxics – I have to disagree. Most women do, they just don’t talk about it or act on it as men do because of worry or fear of being labeled.
@roxics – Okay wheew. I was worried haha. Iunno, what do you think is better? Virgin-non?
@AmeSoeur – We can be virgins together!
@marissa_and_her_darkness – WOO! It’s almost like finally having friends!
@AmeSoeur – OMG I will definitely be your friend! Facebook me Marissa Parmar.