What is your view of flirting on the internet?
I’ve never been one to do it a lot. But I also don’t flirt a lot in real life. I’m one of those guys that is kind of shy and low spoken. I’m not a loud party animal type. I don’t just speak for the sake of saying something. I’m the type to stay quiet and listen, but when I have something to say I’m very opinionated. I’m also the type that gets a wild hair up my ass every so often and does something that is outspoken. It’s just not often.
So when my girlfriend told me she had snooped through my xanga messages and found a message I had sent to a random girl telling her I liked her pic, I really didn’t know what to say. Yeah, I sent the message. Yeah I was being flirtatious. I didn’t think it was a big deal. Never intended it to go anywhere.
I think my girlfriend thinks I’m only one step away from cheating on her at any given moment. I’ve never cheated on anyone. I’ve only had a single one night stand in my entire life. It seems every girl I have sex with wants to get into a relationship with me. Generally the reason I’m even having sex with them is because I want the same thing.
So as for flirting, I’ll be honest, it’s not common. But there is a certain sense of separation on the internet. You know nothing is going to happen, there is no chance. It’s totally different then flirting in person with someone. Not just that but for once in my life women seem to actually like me. Throughout most of my life, while I have had a steady stream of girlfriends and long term relationships, I always felt like women didn’t really like me in that way. Now I don’t know if I was just blind before or if I was really unattractive.
Xanga more then any other website seems to be filled with a lot of women, many of which respond well to me. So if I be a little flirtatious for the fun of it, is it really a problem?
Yeah probably. Because if it hurts my girlfriend it’s not worth it.