So as some of you may know I am bisexual. Now when I say bisexual, I don’t just mean I’m attracted to both genders, although that is true. It means I’ve also had sexual escapades with both genders.
Bisexuality is a natural thing. It’s a fluid thing. It doesn’t always mean the same thing for everyone. It can change from person to person or even within the individual themselves. Many bisexuals will have days where they are more attracted to one sex then another. Or it may be that they have a constant attraction to one sex and a waxing and waining attraction to the other. That’s how it works for me. I’m always attracted to females, but I have my days/weeks where certain types of guys are very attractive.
Then there are other bisexuals who have a consistent 50/50 attraction to either gender. As I said, it’s a fluid thing and the term bisexual is really just a broad description.
It is generally more acceptable in our society for females to be bisexual. When a guy claims he is bisexual he often gets negative remarks from both sides of the gender line. Other guys become unsure of him and uncomfortable around him. Women seem to look at it as a weakness, perhaps afraid that it’s just a stepping stone to him claiming he’s full out gay.
What I’ve found interesting is that the gay community isn’t completely clued in on bisexuals either. If you ask, many gay people are just as prejudice against bisexuals as straight people are. They consider bisexuals ‘sluts’ and tell them to ‘get off the fence’. They also view many bisexual men as just closeted gay men. Perhaps this is because they themselves took this route before coming completely out of the closet. But the truth is, most bisexual men (or women) are just that, bisexual. They aren’t going to ever claim to be gay, because they aren’t.
Now I won’t say that a female claiming to be bisexual has it easy either. There are many prudish people around who will look down on her as well. Then of course there are those girls who like to kiss and rub on each other in public for the attention. Whether they are actually bisexual or not. I’m personally not against this activity, but guys don’t get the same kind of reaction when they do this. I’m just a little curious why.
I have read that chemically and biologically, females are more prone to being bisexual. Males on the other hand are more hard wired to be either hetero or homosexual. This may very well be true. If that’s the case then us male bisexuals are a rare commodity. But I’m not sure I do believe that. I think this is based more on social programming then any kind of hard wiring. I have met several bisexual males. So if we were rare, I’d think I wouldn’t have met as many.
Personally I think bisexual people are some of the most interesting people. I also believe they have the most progressive points of view on sexuality.
As a bisexual male, it doesn’t make me feel less male. In fact I feel even more male as a result of it.