Lets talk about bisexuality. I think there is a certain level of distaste for bisexuality even as acceptance of “gays” becomes more mainstream in pop culture. Bi-sexuals are grossly misunderstood by society as a whole so I would like to try and clear up some of the misunderstanding. First: What is a Bi-Sexual? — A bi-sexual is a person (male or female) that finds both the opposite and the same sex attractive to the point that they would be willing to engage in sexual activity with either gender. Second: What is not Bi-Sexual behavior — A male or female who is sexually attracted to the opposite sex but finds certain people of the same sex attractive or admirable for particular physical attributes. As an example, a guy who thinks another guy who works out has a good body, or a girl who sees another girl and compliments her nice butt. If there is no attraction or desire to be physical with them, then you aren’t bi-sexual. Third: Common misunderstandings about Bi-Sexuals 1. Bi-sexuals are attracted to both men and women equality. — No. This isn’t always the case. While it is true of some, bi-sexuality is a fluid thing that can change from time to time as well as have it’s preference in a particular sex. As an example, a bisexual might be mostly attracted to women, but have times where they are more attracted to men then women. But those times may be fewer and further between. 2. Bi-sexuals are sluts. — Some of them may be, but that is no different then any straight or gay, girl or guy being a slut. That comes down to the individual. If you look at the reality of it though, most bi-sexuals are just like anyone else. They will get into a committed relationship if they like the person enough. They may alternate between the genders with their relationships or they may prefer one gender for sexual encounters only and the other for relationships. 3. Bi-sexuals are just closet homosexuals. — Once again this may be true of some people, that they use bi-sexuality as a stepping stone to homosexuality. But a true bi-sexual is someone who is defined by their taste in both genders sexually. They enjoy the merits of both genders, perhaps not equality, but they do. There is no defining line, there is only personal preference at a given time. To assume that someone can only be straight or only be gay, is narrow minded. Fourth: Why bi-sexuals are often mistreated or misrepresented. — I’ve had conversations with a few bi-sexual people. What we’ve discovered is that female bi-sexual’s are treasured as gold in our western society, especially among swingers groups and by men straight men who are hoping to spice up their sex life. It’s many a males dream to have a threesome with two lovely women, so finding two bi-sexual women to share an experience like that is equal to finding a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow. Women in general have a tendency to be more open sexually/emotionally then men are. Some scientific tests have been done that exclaim that the true nature of a female is bi-sexual, but doesn’t come to that conclusion very often with males. The result is society has accepted female bi-sexuality fairly well as both men and women are accepting of it. A bi-sexual female can have sexual encounters with another female without being labeled as a closet lesbian, or they can have sexual encounters with a male and be accepted as it is. However when it comes to male bi-sexuality the tide often turns. Other straight and gay men look at bi-sexual males as closet homosexuals who just haven’t come out yet. If a male says he has some attraction to cock he is immediately labeled “gay” both by other males and surprisingly often by many females as well. It’s difficult to understand where the females negative reaction comes from, but often women don’t want to date bi-sexual men, they don’t feel it would enhance their sex life at all the way men view bi-sexual women, just that it would confuse things and then they have two genders to worry about their man cheating on them with. They also worry that the man they are with might decide that one day he is gay and there goes the relationship. But this is not true of all women. And this is certainly not true of a genuine bi-sexual. It is sad that is is already the year 2008 and we are just now getting to these issues. I think a lot of headway has been made into the acceptance of gay rights and gay people in general. But unfortunately bi-sexual people are not generally included and often misunderstood. I hope this article has cleared a few things up for some people. Bi-sexual people are probably some of the most interesting people out there because of their diversity and openness to the human form, both male and female. If we are going to build a new and better world we have to accept all forms of sexuality.
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