Linux vs the Apple iPad

For years linux has been attempting to gain ground in the desktop market. While successful as a server OS and even recently as the backbone of mobile OSes such as Android and Web OS, Linux has struggled for nearly two decades to make decent inroads onto the average consumers desktop or laptop. Mostly considered a hobby OS by the mainstream, linux distributors need to come to the harsh realization that the desktop market is a place that has been lost to them. In fact that battle for the desktop was over before they even showed up on the battle field. The battle for the desktop OS was during the 1980′s. It’s clear that two and a half decades later the two main players (Apple and Microsoft) are still in the game and not going anywhere.

That said, why continue to fight a battle for the mainstream that the mass majority of consumers could care less about? Without proper commercial software and a steady stream of hardware driver support, the linux battle has been uphill and continues to be uphill.
But there is a light at the end of the tunnel for linux. That light is called mobile devices.

What makes mobile devices different? Well for starters, they are all-in-one systems. This means that the end user doesn’t need to mess around with driver issues and complications. It also means the end user is willing to accept simplified software that does specific tasks rather than huge pieces of killer software for extensive work. At least right now anyway.

What constitutes a mobile device? Well, that’s a pretty generic term, but the focus of this article is really on the two hottest types of mobile devices currently sweeping the consumer electronics space right now, smart phones and tablet computers.

Linux has already made begun to make its mark in the smart phone market with Android and Web OS. What makes linux shine on smart phones is the “new market” that has emerged for them. There was no precedence in place for smart phones, unlike desktop operating systems. When linux entered the desktop market it needed to play catch-up with the existing desktop OSes that came before. Namely Windows and Mac OS. For nearly two decades Linux has been playing catch-up with both of these operating systems. But in the smart phone market there has been little to catch up to. The Apple iPhone having a two year advantage is a small enough gap that linux could easily step in and make ground. The same will be true for the emerging tablet market.

Tablet computers have been around for a long time. The problem however is that up until now they’ve mostly remained a niche market, much like linux itself. The reason is because they’ve usually been nothing more then large expensive touch screen convertible laptops running full desktop operating systems. The Apple iPad however, is changing that idea.

The rumors and speculation surrounding the Apple iPad before and during its announcement really put tablet computers back into the public’s focus. It doesn’t hurt that more powerful and larger touch screen smart phones began emerging around this same time. All of it has really helped to give everyone a better idea of what a tablet computer could be.

The introduction of the Apple iPad has been both a blessing and a disappointment to many people. There are many who see the elegance in its simplicity. But there are many others who have found complaints in its lack of (insert missing feature here).

Really we should all be very happy for the introduction of the iPad. At the very least it brings the re-imagining of tablet computing into the consumers focus. Let me give you an example. A couple of years ago when they were building a new Ikea in my local area a news crew interviewed other local furniture stores and asked them what they thought about this Ikea opening up. I think the news reporter thought there were asking a question which would result in a response filled with dread and dismay. However the response they got was anything but. In fact one of the representatives from a local furniture store responded very positively saying (and I paraphrase) “We’re really happy to see them here, because it gets people excited about furniture again. So while they may walk into an Ikea to check it out and see what they offer, they may very well decide that they’d rather spend a little more money and get something nicer from us or one of the other local furniture stores.”

I think the furniture store representative hit the nail on the head with that comment. I also think that comment can easily apply to tablets. The Apple iPad will get people thinking about tablet computers in a new way. But many will walk away from the Apple store not entirely pleased with what the iPad has to offer. As a result they’ll be looking for an alternative that suits them better. It’s a win win situation for everyone offering a similar tablet on the market.

So how can linux enter this game? Well, it already has. Many companies are already looking to include Android as the base OS for some iPad competition. But I think that linux can do better.

Android is a great operating system. At its core it’s wonderful and scalable. That said, the basic Android interface leaves much to be desired. Honestly I can say the same thing about the iPad as well. The iPad is nothing but a scaled up iPhone interface. While Apple has built some great custom applications that take advantage of the larger screen real estate, they haven’t done much to the interface itself. This is precisely where linux can make its mark.
The company HTC has done a great job in re-skinning the Android interface on smart phones. They gave it a nice glossy finish and wonderful widgets that rest on the home screens. The same needs to happen for tablets. But it needs to go beyond that.

Based on a lot of comments regarding the iPad and those who are disappointed in it, many people (myself included) were really looking for a desktop OS that was re-skinned and re-imagined for the tablet. In other words, what people really want is all the power and functionality of a desktop OS with the fit and finish a simplified multi-touch GUI (graphic user interface).

Lets try to imagine what that could be for a minute. But to do that we need to step outside the convention of a desktop operating system as we know it. We need to forget about the idea of a desktop filled with icons and files buried inside folders, buried inside folders and so on. We need to ask ourselves; can grandma use this?
The great thing about multi-touch screens is that they represent a paradigm shift in how we interact with computers. Up until recently we forgot that. It took the iPhone and now the iPad to really show us that it’s not just the hardware that needs to change, it’s the way we interact with the software that also needs to change. Surprisingly this is something we’ve known for a while now. Not all touch screen computers have been unsuccessful. ATM machines and touch screen kiosks have been around for a while and served us very well. But in both of those situations we’ve used software built with large buttons and graphic elements. They’ve also given us little arm strain (gorilla arm) because of our short time using them.

Do to our experience with ATM’s and kiosks we know that touch screens really aren’t great for desktop computing. In fact they really aren’t great for any computer in which a screen stands up vertically in front of us. This includes laptops. That said, touch screens are wonderful and they are revolutionary. They really do allow you to interact in ways you could never do with a mouse and keyboard. But they need the proper medium to exist and be useful. That medium is a tablet. Something that lays in your lap or on the table in front of you and allows your hands to fall upon it rather than outward toward it, hanging in the air.

So now that we have the tablet and we have the multi-touch screen, what changes? For starters we need the interface to be at our finger tips rather than at the tip of our mouse cursor. This means larger buttons or at the very least buttons that can act like they are larger. it also means taking all the strange icons typically found in the tool bars of programs like Microsoft Word and making them larger and hiding them behind a layer or a larger menu button. I realize this breaks conventions and adds steps. However when it comes to a touch screen device you really need to clean up the interface considerably and that might mean taking a few steps back in the speed in which you can get things done. Hopefully that can be made up for in the WAY you get things done.

In short, what we need are good alternatives. We need companies who are now focusing on desktop linux solutions to change their focus and take advantage of the blooming tablet market. They need to rethink the folders and icons approach to computers and consider widgets and methods for multitasking full screen touch applications. We also need them partner up with hardware manufacturers to provide simple solutions. Gone are the days of installing any OS on any devices and playing with it for hours to make it work. I think Apple, Sony, Nintendo and even Microsoft have shown us that people want solutions that just work out of the box. We have enough complication in our lives. We want to get past the technical complication and get to whatever it is we need to do. The computer needs to be the tool to get the task done, not the task itself.

Blu-ray – the history and the future of home video

The first Blu-ray movies were released on June 20th, 2006. That was three and a half years ago. Amazing how time flies. Feels like I was just reading about it.

As a gadget geek and an indie filmmaker you’d think I’d be all over blu-ray. When DVD first came out in 1997 it was only a year later before I owned my first player and soon after my second player. I was all up DVD’s ass from the beginning, as soon as I could afford it. But the differences between DVD and VHS at the time were huge. My family had owned a VHS player since the early to mid-80′s so I grew up from age 7 or 8 with the ability to pop in a tape and watch movies. My dad was all about VHS. He loved buying used movies from the local video store. As a result my parents created quite a collection of movies. In fact looking back I never anytime even considered my dad being a gadget geek in a slightest. But as I’m writing this it’s dawning on me that in fact if he had a shred of gadget geekery in him, it was for buying movies on VHS.

I up grew watching movies on VHS. If I had any complaints about it there were few. Those included having to rewind the tape (Be Kind Rewind) and the tracking issues with older tapes. Also the rare chance a tape might snap and break. But actually VHS overall wasn’t bad. Since day one we could record TV shows and movies to tape. When you think about it, this is a feature that the vast majority of DVD players still lack today. Which doesn’t seem nearly as odd as it should. I mean yeah set-top DVD recorders do exist and are out there. But even as of this writing a brand new set-top DVD recorder will still run you over a $100 at a store. Contrast that with $30 or $40 DVD players which are all too common these days. The format has been out for 13 years. 13 years! You’d think by now that every DVD player would also be a DVD recorder. But apparently that was never very important to people. Hence the reason it probably isn’t as common.

To be fair though, other recording technologies did grow up around DVD. Digital Video Recorders (DVR’s) like Tivo for instance. A feature that most digital cable boxes come with these days. Plus not to mention the biggest of them all, computers. The ability for people to download TV shows and even watch them online directly.
Plus lets not forget that with DVD came the release of entire seasons of TV shows in DVD box sets. Something you rarely if ever saw on VHS. Speaking of that, lets talk about some of the things that made DVD so great compared to VHS before we move on to blu-ray.

When I bought my first DVD player it was like day and night in comparison to VHS. Not only was it four times the picture resolution of VHS, but it was also better then CD quality audio. By the time DVD was released we had all been used to CD’s and buying our music that way. CD’s had really taken off in the mainstream by the early 1990′s, so we were all used to the size and type of disc. We were also used to the superior audio quality and the ability to skip tracks and not have to rewind tapes. Something I’m sure vinyl enthusiasts were excited to see again.
So it was only a matter of time before we were all expecting to be able to purchase movies on a disc format with similar features and the same size.

With the release of DVD came those features and more. Not only could we skip chapters and avoid rewinding, but we were also treated to menus, special features, subtitles that could be turned on and off, as well as multiple languages and a couple other features that never really took off (bookmarking and multiple angles). Plus the superior video and audio quality I previously mentioned. But best of all DVD (digital versatile disc) was indeed versatile. It could be played in a computer, on a set-top box or in a portable DVD player. Even in a DVD player for your car. DVD’s were also used for software outside of video playback and eventually as a popular data disc format for burning files too. It was also cheap and easy. I remember years ago being in the grocery store and buying a box of cereal that had a Muppets movie DVD inside. Actually strapped to the front of the cereal box. How cool is that! You would have never seen that with VHS. But probably what made DVD really great over VHS from a movies collectors point of view was the fact that it was digital. So there wasn’t any worry about wearing out the movie with more playbacks like there had been with VHS.

Looking at all of that you can see just how revolutionary DVD was over VHS.

However like I mentioned earlier, during the lifetime of DVD other technologies had emerged along side of it. The ability to download movies off the internet and even the ability to steam TV shows and movies off of websites came about. Even the emergence of HD video content being streamed or downloaded online.

The biggest difference with online content versus DVD is that you don’t often get any of the bonus features you get on DVD. You also don’t get the ability to physically own the movie with the box and all the artwork which can be stored on a shelf. So it doesn’t have nearly the fit and finish a DVD would have. Not to mention the fact the files could be accidentally deleted or become corrupted with data or drive errors.
However the benefit is that you can quickly and easy find what you’re looking for if it’s available. So if you get the urge to see a certain movie or TV show in the middle of the night, you can download it in your pajamas without having to find a 24 hour Walmart and hope that they have it on DVD.

There is a also a certain bit of ease of use that comes with having all your movies and video on your computer. In fact it may sound incredibly lazy, but I’ve found myself just bored and randomly opening movies on my computer and watching them starting at my favorite scenes. If I would have had to go to my shelf and pull the DVD out and put the disc in and wait for it to load up and get to the menu and then skip chapters to that scene, I would have never done it. I just wouldn’t have gone through the effort.

With more movies being increasingly available to purchase online, even in high definition, one wonders what role blu-ray plays in this new world. Afterall blu-ray is modeled after the old world. The idea of physically going to a store and buying a movie on a physical disc. Then having to store all those movies on a shelf which just takes up increasingly precious shelf real-estate in our increasingly material world. With the whole green (environmental) movement in full swing, one wonders whether the idea of buying digital content on a physical medium is nothing but an exercise in waste. I mean afterall why continue to release digital entertainment on physical discs when the internet is clearly the environment in which digital entertainment should be passed to and from.

What we seem to lack is one standard clear cut digital format for this type of thing. Sure we have a multitude of digital video and audio formats out there. But we don’t have one high quality digital file format that can be easily played on a variety of hardware and passed through the internet. This is where cloud computing is essentially going. The idea of keeping all your media on the internet and then being able to access that from anywhere.

Imagine a car stereo that wirelessly connects to the internet and your own personal music collection. You can easily get to every song or every video you own from your dashboard mounted radio. Then you walk in your house and turn on your TV and get to all your movies and home videos there. You go out for a run and take your cell phone with you and from it you can get to all your music. All of it. Not just what you decided to bring with you. Then you get home again and sit down at your computer and it’s all right there. The portability of digital is really where it’s future lies. Portable beyond a disc you carry with you. But the idea that you can get to your media using all manner of devices where ever you are, even if you forgot to bring your own portable device with you.

There are a lot of people that know this future is coming. It may only be a couple of years away. We’re already seeing it right now, it just hasn’t been made as easy to use. All the ducks aren’t completely lined up yet.
But because of this there are people who are skeptical of jumping onto the blu-ray bandwagon. I would be one of those people.

To be honest, I think blu-ray is really cool. The gadget geek and filmmaker inside me does in fact love it. But up until recently I wasn’t sure the format was ever going to really take off. I was sure it was going to end up being nothing more then laserdisc was in the age of VHS. An uppity expensive format for videophiles who wanted the best of the best and were willing to pay a premium for it.
So you can bet I have been pretty surprised to see just how much blu-ray is actually taking off. Walking though an average retail store like a Target or Walmart these days has been an interesting experience. It seems like in the past 3-6 months blu-ray has just exploded all over the place. These stores now have at least one whole aisle dedicated to blu-ray movies. Then there are all the set-top players and end-caps with players and LCD tv’s showing off blu-ray movies. Even the movies themselves have dropped to reasonable prices. I noticed that one of my favorite movies “Stargate” can now be had on blu-ray for $10. That’s what I paid for the special edition version on DVD the second time I bought it.

The prices will definitely drive more people to buy into blu-ray. But as for myself I’m still holding back. Blu-ray doesn’t really offer a whole lot over DVD. It’s not the dramatic difference DVD was to VHS. Blu-ray is high definition, which is it’s biggest selling point. It also has better audio. But honestly you really can’t get much better than DVD audio. DVD audio as it is, is beyond human hearing. The only other features blu-ray offers are better menus and special features you can pop up while watching the movie. Some movies and most players these days even feature the ability to connect to the internet for extra material. Honestly though, I can’t see that actually taking off. The discs themselves already hold so much there really isn’t much of a need for them to connect to the internet to get more stuff. Plus I question how long content producers will continue to develop new free content for blu-ray movies that are 5+ years old. If anything this will eventually get used for advertising.

But beyond that stuff blu-ray doesn’t really offer anything all that compelling. To even fully take advantage of it you need a high definition TV. Granted most TV’s sold these days are HD LCD TV’s. But for people like myself who don’t own one, there is no reason to run out and buy a player for a TV I don’t own. DVD gave us the ability to take full advantage of the TV’s we already owned. Blu-ray requires us to go out and buy new TV’s to take full advantage of the blu-ray disc. Big difference in cost there.

Now it may sound odd to you being that I am a video professional and I shoot and edit HD video all day long, but I really don’t see a huge difference between SD (standard definition) and HD. Even a quality, well shot DVD (like any Hollywood movie) can look great on a big screen LCD TV at the proper viewing distance. With cheap up-scaling DVD players in abundance, blu-ray is even less tempting. The added resolution and the cooler menus just aren’t enough to push me over the edge yet. Plus I really don’t buy movies very often anymore. I pretty much stopped buying movies on DVD a couple of years ago. I’d rather rent or download. Call me cheap, but the idea of spending $15-20 on a movie I’ll probably watch once or twice in 5-10 years is overkill. It’s too much. Especially when I can rent it for a $1 or possibly catch it online for free when I do feel like watching it. Plus the idea of rebuying all my 200+ DVD’s on blu-ray just doesn’t make me all giddy inside.

So if HD isn’t enough, is there anything that might eventually get me to jump on the blu-ray bandwagon? Yes actually there is. We call it 3D. If there is one feature that blu-ray is going to have that will truly set it apart, it’s going to be Blu-ray 3D.

For decades and decades 3D has been considered a gimmick. Even today many people consider it a cheap gimmick used by movie studios as a way to get peoples butts back into theaters. Beyond that many people are not satisfied with having to wear 3D glasses and the slightly jarring experience that it offers. But after seeing Avatar in the theater you can consider me a 3D enthusiast. Upon seeing that movie in 3D I realized that 3D really is the future of movies. For the first time in decades 3D might actually stick around permanently rather then just being a passing fad that comes and goes once a decade. Even with the bellyaching that some people have with it, no one can debate that it’s getting better and better. Gone are the red and blue glasses and the expensive hard to shoot 3D celluloid film cameras. Now it’s all digital 3D with advancing 3D digital camera technology and 3D digital projectors. This year we will begin to see 3D capable LCD TV’s and the blu-ray association has finalized the blu-ray 3D specification. That means that this year we will begin seeing blu-ray movies released in Blu-ray 3d format. A format that is compatible with these new 3D LCD TV’s.

Sure it means you’ll need to buy a new big screen 3D LCD TV. Which has got to suck for those of you who already own a big screen LCD TV. But for myself it just means the first LCD TV I buy will be 3D enabled.

This, along with lowering blu-ray prices may very well be enough to get me on the blu-ray bandwagon. That is until movies start being offered online in 3D. But I think that unlike 2D, 3D is something that really needs to be experienced in front of a big screen. Whether that be a movie theater or a big screen home theater. So until I can easily get 3D movies online that I can quickly and easily watch on a big screen home theater setup, blu-ray just might have a chance of sticking around longer then I initially expected.

What I “really” want for Christmas

When I was a kid I was pretty lucky. I got a lot of the presents I asked for. Not all of them, but enough. Being the last of four kids by an 11 year age difference made me the baby that everyone spoiled in one way or the other.

For the first couple years into my twenties my folks would still get me one or two big gifts. For instance one year I got a nice pair of computer speakers. Another year I got the Adobe Photoshop (upgrade) box. But all of that ended a good seven or eight years ago. Things are different now and have been for many years. Now I have my own son who is five years old who I in turn try to get some nice things for. It’s all about passing it down the line.

Today if I want something nice for myself, I have to get it for myself. Christmas with my family is all about what you can find on the cheap. Since we’re buying for so many. We’re talking ten to fifteen dollar gifts. Not too bad. But it’s been pretty difficult trying to figure out what ask for and what to get other people in that price range. Honestly there aren’t a ton of things I’d really like for around that amount of coin. So my list was pretty short.

Just for shits and giggles I decided I would write up a Christmas list for myself. Things I’d love to see under the tree with my name on it if my family and I were well-to-do. This is more for my own record then anything. Something I can look back on years from now and see what it was I wanted.

• HTC Hero for Sprint ($100 on two year contract – $70 unlimited data, txt & internet and unlimited mobile to mobile calling each month)
• Canon 7D – DSLR that can do HD 1080p video at 24fps ($1700 for the camera body only)
• Nice component-style Turntable – like a Technics or similar for use with a stereo receiver and loud speakers.
• A nice pair of loudspeakers – floor standing – Polk Audio or Klipsch
• A house – just a nice 1200-1400sq ft 3-bedroom ranch with a finished basement, a fenced in yard and a fireplace in a decent neighborhood.
• A newer car – something within the last five years that works well and gets good gas mileage – Toyota Corolla, Subaru, Honda Accord, Saab
• A Macbook Pro – 15″ unibody with Nvidia 9400M+9600M graphics in it.
• 42″ 1080P HD LCD TV – whatever, I’m not that picky
• Xbox 360 with a 120GB hard drive and Fable II – More for my son and girlfriend then myself, but I’d still play Fable II here and there
• Any and all debts paid off
• My own successful small business that I enjoy working at
• Peace, love and harmony among myself and those I know and love

Yeah I know some of those don’t fit under the tree. That’s probably also not a complete list, but it’s what was on my mind.

Michigan Bans Public Smoking

So yesterday the state of Michigan (my home state) passed a law to ban smoking in public bars and restaurants. As a former smoker and current vaper I have mixed feelings on this. Should the government be allowed to tell business owners that they can’t allow smoking in their business? I want to say no, but unfortunately the government already tells these business owner what they can and can’t do in many other ways.

That’s the problem with government isn’t it? It’s capable of both helping and hurting and something the opinion on which is which, can vary.

As far as smoking is concerned, I can understand the position of many nonsmokers. Especially when it comes to restaurants. Why should the nonsmoker be subjected to smoke of other patrons while trying to enjoy their meal? It’s not cheap to eat out and that could certainly ruin your experience. Even when I was a smoker I could clearly see that the nonsmoking and smoking section of most restaurants were often not very segregated. Often times separated only by a few feet without any solid barrier between the two. So to assume that drifting smoke isn’t going to find it’s way into the nonsmoking section is just silly.

But perhaps there was another way about it. Restaurants already have certain health standards they have to abide by. Laws could have been put into place regulating “smoking rooms” in the back of restaurants that are blocked by solid walls, double doors and the addition of smoke eater machines inside those rooms. Regulation is at least the better alternative to an all out ban. It would have represented balance and choice.

Another alternative could have been a regulation that stated your business either had to be an all smoking establishment or an all nonsmoking establishment. Thereby giving the business owner the choice and letting the free market determine which businesses succeed. Something tells me there is room for both.

But it’s not really about tolerance is it? The truth is some nonsmokers just hate smoking and would probably love to see it outlawed. They see it as a ridiculous act which only harms people. Beyond that they make bold statements like “why should I have to inadvertently pay your health bills through my higher insurance fees and taxes?” Smokers meanwhile retort by saying things such as “We live in a free country, we should be allowed to do what we want with our own bodies and if I enjoy smoking then I shouldn’t be told I can’t.”

It is a hard call. None of us are here forever. Our goal is not to arrive unbeaten and unbruised into the grave. I’ve heard many a smoker make comments like “it may cut ten years off the end of my life, but those are the worst ten years anyway.” There is some logic in that. It’s not like we go on living forever if we just eat healthy, work out and don’t smoke. We’re all going to grow old and die one way or the other. Whether it’s breaking a hip and slowly losing your health or slowly dying of lung cancer or having a heart attack and going quickly. So until science can find a way to extend our lives to the point where we can live healthy and happy in a 24 year olds body for hundreds of years, we’re going to hit that point where death is upon us. But even then I could smoke for 20 years and get hit by a car. Wouldn’t have really mattered how long I smoked then, would it? To a smoker their quality of life is enjoying it. Being free to do as they wish. Exploiting the various sins of man to their satisfaction.

On the other hand nonsmokers take the approach that they want to feel better, breath better and not stink of smoke. That’s how they want to live their lives.

The question is, should one side really dictate how the other should live?

Personally I like to take a middle ground approach. While I believe that smokers should be free to smoke I think they need to take more responsibility with it. They should have the decency and concern not to smoke around kids and other nonsmokers. Or at the very least ask the nonsmokers if they mind and not take offense if they say they do. Smokers should also stick to areas that are smoke friendly, including bars which are all smoking.

On the flip side, nonsmokers shouldn’t put themselves in situations where they have cause to complain.

But then so much of this isn’t really a choice anymore is it? Because the government here in Michigan has just banned the practice in most public places. So I guess this is a victory for some and a show of intolerance for others.

Of course there is a third option. E-cigarettes. These are a better solution for everyone. So long as smokers can handle the slight change of texture and nonsmokers can get over their hatred of anything that remotely resembles a cigarette.

Gender Expectations

This post is inspired by SuggestiveTongue’s Entry.

Men in skirts and dresses
As I said in my comments there, I never understood why it is that girls can wear skirts or pants and yet it’s only socially acceptable for a guy to wear pants. That is with the few exceptions like a kilt or a guy in a dress as a joke.
Lets dial it back to the kilt for a minute. Lets be honest. A kilt is a skirt. Manly Scottish guys have worn them for centuries. The ancient Roman empire also had guys running around in what were essentially skirts as well. Including the soldiers in the Roman army. Both the Greeks and the Romans wore togas which were basically dresses.

Yet somewhere down the line it became inappropriate for guys to wear anything resembling a skirt or dress. Now I can kinda understand the gender association with a guy wearing a dress or a skirt made for a female. But the examples I posted above clearly show throughout history we have had such garments that were tailored for men. So why don’t we today?

I mean shit, it’s not like they are impractical? These guys throughout history used to work the fields and go to war and celebrate in this garb. The fact that women today, half our population can seem to get along in daily life just fine in a dress or skirt also shows their practicality.

So there really is no excuse. But lets move on to other gender expectations.

Make-up
Here is yet another modern day societal norm. Women can wear make-up in public (or not) and be accepted. Men who wear makeup in public usually get crass remarks said about them by other people to other people. Or even comic and scornful remarks said to their face. Unless that is, the make-up they are wearing is not obvious and no one can tell.

It seems a tad unfair if you ask me. It is socially acceptable for a woman to wear make-up to bring out her eyes, her cheeks and her lips, yet men are expected to go plain and natural.

Maybe we should ask ourselves why women wear makeup? Is it perhaps because it makes them look better and brings out their features (as stated above)? Could this possibly have anything to do with attracting a mate? I think yes. Even if such a thing is not blatantly stated, the purpose of wearing makeup is to make oneself more attractive and appealing. Whether that be to attract a mate or not. Yet in today’s society men and women are equal. Women today are not just bystanders hoping to catch the eye of a good suitor. Women today have careers and are independent. They are just as likely to be the suitor to a man as any man is to a woman. So if a man is trying to attract a female suitor or just look attractive in general, should he not also have the same tools that a woman has to be able to accomplish this?

This doesn’t mean that a man needs to wear makeup in the same way that a woman does, just as a man wouldn’t need to a wear a dress that is designed for a woman. Instead men would wear makeup in a fashion that highlights a mans features. Once again I source history as an example of men wearing makeup. Be it tribal makeup, war paint, or eyeliner like ancient Egyptian and Mesopotamian men. The truth is, history shows us that guys have been wearing makeup as long as 12,000 years ago. Yet in our modern society we don’t accept this. This is not slavery, this is a harmless decorative act which we openly accept for women and should openly accept for men as well.

Why let women have all the fun in a supposedly equal society?

Sex toys for guys

Ok, I’ve noticed something lately. Maybe it’s not new, but it’s new to me. It seems that sex toys for guys are kind of considered “perverted”. I don’t really understand. Women have their sex toys and openly talk about them with their close girlfriends. I guess it depends on the group of girls. But most girls that I’ve encountered, when they talk about sex toys they giggle a little bit and admit to having one or a few or a whole box. Some giggle and say “no I don’t have any” but always seem curious to try them out.

The point is, women usually have a dildo and this is generally considered totally cool. Even Hot.
On the other hand, if a guy admits to having a sex toy, he usually gets labeled as a pervert or a loser who can’t get laid.

Lets take this article as an example:

http://gizmodo.com/5375323

Here is a young hipster guy reviewing what is probably the most popular male sex toy on the market. Yet he reviews the entire thing both tongue in cheek and with a certain degree of disgust. Basically he’s laughing the entire thing off and ends with a claim that a guys hand is the only thing he should ever consider using.

The comments follow in form. Yet while reading them I can’t help but think to myself “I wonder how many of these people are just saying this so they don’t come off looking like perverts” and “I wonder how many of these people are going to go out and secretly buy one even though they’re talking shit about it.”

Here is one comment:

“Come on, if you need to use this, you either are extremely desperate, extremely weird, or you lost your hand.”

Really? I mean Really? Yet I bet you if they were reviewing didos for women this guy would be all about it and would never dare use the words “extremely desperate or extremely weird.”

My girlfriend has an entire box of sex toys in all different shapes and sizes and speeds. She’s by far not the first girl I’ve ever known to have such a box. Yet for some reason it’s considered shameful and weird for men to have sex toys. Even though plenty of men do in fact have them. I bet those guys that do also tend to have the best sex as well. Why? Because obviously they aren’t afraid to like what they like and be open with themselves about it.

As someone who has owned a fleshlight myself for the better part of a half decade I can tell you that it’s something every guy should have. Just like every woman should own a dildo. It’s a great alternative to your hand and it certainly doesn’t stop your sex life. Is it messy? Yeah!. But sex is messy. That’s the point. If you aren’t looking to get a little dirty then why consider even doing anything sexual your fucking pansy.

Transgenderism – extremely nsfw

A transgender person is someone who feels they were born in the wrong body. For instance they were born with a male body but a female brain or vice versa. This entry is going to focus on male to female transgenderism simply because I understand it better and have done more research on it. These women are called trans-women. They are also called shemales or t-girls. Which is sometimes taken as a derogatory.

Transgendered people unfortunately face a lot of discrimination. People just don’t seem to understand or they believe it’s unnatural. As a result these women many times have trouble finding decent employment and have to fear for the safety of their lives. The trans community often holds memorials recognizing those among them that have been murdered or those that have committed suicide due to the stress of their nonacceptance and everything that comes with it.

Transgendered people seem to be less accepted then gay people. Much of this has to do with public awareness. The media these days is filled with gay people and the result of which is greater public awareness and a growing understanding. However much of a media still portrays transgendered people as ugly hairy transvestites (cross dressers). Transgendered people often piggyback onto the the gay and lesbian movement where they are more accepted and understood. Still, faced with the general public as a whole they are considered an oddity and fight an uphill battle for equality, acceptance and awareness.

For some who transition, they end up losing their current jobs. Some find themselves on the streets. Some flee to the pornography industry to make a living.

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Porn dictating sexual habits

I was listening to the radio on my drive to work the other day and they had Kevin Smith (filmmaker and actor) on for a pretty lengthy interview. I like Kevin Smith and his movies, even if I’m not the biggest fan ever. But he started talking about porn and he said something pretty profound.

The DJ’s had asked him about a scene in Clerks 2 (I think I haven’t seen it) where they are talking about Ass to Mouth. Kevin said (and I’m paraphrasing):

“It used to be decades ago that porn was a reflection of peoples real sexual lifestyles and habits. Today porn seems to be dictating peoples sexual habits. In real life who really does Ass to Mouth? ‘ hey you wanna put this in your mouth even though I just pulled it out of your ass?’ If your girl is going to give you anal, it’s more like Ass to Thank You.”

Lol, I thought that was pretty funny and pretty accurate. I hadn’t realized it completely until he said it. But I remember when I was 9 or 10 and found my brothers stash of porn mags. Over the years I found his video tapes and eventually rented and bought some of my own. Then the internet came about and over the next decade I used that to fulfill my porn appetite. Porn has definitely changed, even in the last twenty years I’ve been viewing it.

It used to be anal sex was a fetish, now it’s hard to find a porn flick that doesn’t have an anal scene. In fact what used to be many so called “weird fetishes” have found their way into mainstream porn. Another great example is rimming. It seems like at least every other porn I watch these days has a guy rimming a girls asshole with his tongue and girls rimming other girls assholes with their tongue. Its almost become the norm over eating out a chicks pussy. I’ve seen these trends come in. Lately I’ve been seeing this trend of girls rimming guys (I certainly don’t mind that either :) and even some gay porn finding its way into the straight porn section in the form of bisexual scenes.

But the real question is, is any of this bad? Yeah I guess it is if you think that all people do this kind of stuff during sex and you expect it with everyone you get with. On the other hand, it is opening peoples minds to other things. But everybody does have their limits. You just need to be aware of what they are when you get with someone. Lol! This coming from me. The guy whose gotten nearly every girl he’s been with to let him stick it in their ass. Yeah I’ve been known to push some girls boundaries over the years. But hey they were willing to go there and I was happy to take them there. Was I influenced by porn? Hell yeah I was and I’m glad for it too! Otherwise I wouldn’t have had some of the wild times I’ve had in the sack. Am I going ass to mouth anytime soon? Hey it’s not my mouth. :)

You can’t judge a book by its cover, but…

Ever hear the old saying “You can’t judge a book by it’s cover”?

Usually this saying is applied to people. Generally the saying is true. But I think more then anything, the real message behind the saying is not “don’t prejudge people” but instead “take the time to get to know them after you’ve prejudged them”.

We all judge people. It’s human nature. First impressions are key indicators in a whole range of situations, whether it be a job interview or a first date.

I like to add to this saying “… but you can get a pretty good idea what it’s about.”

The reality is you can tell a lot about a person from their exterior. The way they dress, the way they carry themselves, the way they talk, the things they do, the way their body is shaped, their hair style and so on.
We try to tell ourselves that inner beauty is the most important thing. But inner beauty is a relative thing. Just like qualities such as “nice” or “mean” are pretty relative at best. I could say “he’s fat but he’s a nice guy”. Well what’s nice to me might not be nice to you. For all I know you could have a personality clash with him. Just like you could think he’s mean and I think he’s sarcastic and funny. However neither of use can disagree that he’s fat. That in itself shows a certain insight into his personality and how well he takes care of himself, what his diet might be like and how often he works out. These are visual indicators of certain aspects of his personality. It’s perfectly fine for us to judge him on that aspect of his personality. What’s not ok is to judge him as a whole on just that one single aspect.

Let me give you an example. I’m not a big fan of tattoos. When I see someone with tattoos I judge them. I know right off the bat that their sense of style is different then my own. The more tattoos they have, the further their sense of style is from my own. I like things clean and simple. Now does this mean they are bad people or that I’m not going to enjoy their company and conversation? Not at all. But will I go out of my way to try and meet them? Probably not. The important thing is that if I’m in a situation to meet them, I don’t go out of my way to let my prejudice stand in the way of getting to know them better.

While I can’t judge a book by it’s cover, it has to grab my attention to even give it a chance. It’s one thing to just not take interest because what you see doesn’t interest you, it’s another thing to let that initial judgment take precedence over everything.

Now there are people who will do the reverse and go out of their way to meet people who they might otherwise feel they would clash with. Nothing wrong with that. But those same people have to understand that if the rest of us don’t do like they do, it’s not because we aren’t open. It’s more because we’ve spent some time on this earth and have tuned ourselves to understand that generally our stereotypes are true. Stereotypes do exist for a reason. They are based on common observations over time. The important thing is, once again, not to let our stereotypes stop us from diving deeper. As well as certainly not to use those stereotypes as a means for hate.

The one thing that’s great about humanity is our capacity for change. We are capable of adapting our perspectives over time based on new information. It’s when we stop ourselves from adapting, that’s when the real danger sets in.

Bi-sexuality

Lets talk about bisexuality. I think there is a certain level of distaste for bisexuality even as acceptance of “gays” becomes more mainstream in pop culture. Bi-sexuals are grossly misunderstood by society as a whole so I would like to try and clear up some of the misunderstanding.

First: What is a Bi-Sexual?
– A bi-sexual is a person (male or female) that finds both the opposite and the same sex attractive to the point that they would be willing to engage in sexual activity with either gender.
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