Movie theaters should end

Tonight Melissa and I went to see the movie “The Day the Earth Stood Still”. This post isn’t about the movie but the theater experience itself. Her and I don’t go to the movie theater very often. Once every few months it seems. There was a time in my life about eight or nine years ago when I used to go every weekend, sometimes twice. But in those years between now and then the experience has changed. It’s like everyone seemed to forget how to act in a theater. People talking, kicking seats, playing on their cell phones and that’s just the audience. Then there are the outrageous ticket prices and the even worse concession stand prices. Three dollars for a bottle of Aquafina, are you kidding me? Then of course there are the commercial advertisements they decide to show both before the movie trailers AND after.

It’s no wonder the theater was mostly dead tonight, a Saturday night, the second night after the opening of a movie that obviously Hollywood believed would have a big turn out. Well it didn’t and I can see why now.

Some years back I heard about an idea the movie studios were kicking around. The idea was to release movies on DVD the same time they released them in the theaters. I’m not sure why it didn’t happen, but I have only to guess that the theater chains probably complained about the idea. Who can blame them, it would have killed their business. After all why would anyone spend the money on two tickets at $18-20 to see a movie in a theater with loud annoying people, when for the same price they could own the movie on DVD and watch it in the comfort of their own home? The studios make more money these days off the DVD sales then the theater sales anyway.

Maybe it is time for movie theaters to end. To go out of business. Maybe that business model just doesn’t work anymore. Especially for a society that seems to have turned into an ADHD ridden, text message addicted group of self righteous individuals who can’t seem to remember how to properly behave in a movie theater.

That said, I am a guy who makes films myself and have referred to the movie theater in the past as my “church”. A holy place of great experiences. But even I must confess that the time for pop culture movie theaters should perhaps come to an end.


I think it’s fascinating how people feel the need to belong to smaller groups. I wonder where this stems from. These small groups could be anything from cults to small church congregations (is there any difference?) to people who live and believe they are vampires. It’s like people have some deep inset desire to belong to a small group that somehow feels they are in some way better or more informed then the larger populace.

I guess everyone wants to feel special and needed.

I have a friend who is gay and…

…He is always trying to get my girlfriend and I to go out to the gay bar with him and his boyfriend.
I’ve been to the gay bar with him more times then I can count in the past, but honestly it’s not my thing. I mostly did it when I was single and wanted to go out and drink and be social. And not to make it sound bad, no one else was around to go out with. He would say “I’m going to *insert gay bar here* do you want to go?” and I would be like “well I’d rather go to a regular bar but… yeah I guess”. Like I said, mostly because I just wanted to go out and drink.

Him and I have been best friends since freshman year of high school. 15 years now. He told me he was gay about 6 or 7 years ago. I accept it, as does our other best friend who lives out of state now. It seems like every time he calls me up it’s to go out to a gay bar. I really don’t want to go and he always gives me all kinds of shit about it.

What do I say to him. I mean I don’t mind going every once in a great while. I’m willing to make the compromise every so often. But it’s just not my thing.

Tonight he called me up and told me his boyfriend’s birthday is this Friday and they want to go out to a club in Ann Arbor. Ann Arbor is 45 minutes or more from us. I told him we didn’t want to go, not because it was a gay bar, we would make an exception because it was his boyfriends birthday. But we didn’t want to go because it was so far away. If we were to go we would want to get a motel room because we don’t want to drive all that way having drank all night. But since it’s just before Christmas, money is tight and I still have all my shopping to do, I can’t justify going all that way, paying for a motel just so we can go to a gay bar we don’t really want to go to in the first place.

He tried convincing me for about 45 minutes on the phone. I can’t believe it. I’ve never guilt tripped him about anything for 45 minutes.

I feel bad, but I also feel like my reason is justified. I told him that if it was some place in town we would go, but the distance is what makes this a non-event for us.

I feel a little frustrated with it. Him and I share a whole group of friends that we went to high school with. He hangs out with them more then he hangs out with me. But he hasn’t told them he’s gay, so as a result he doesn’t expect them to go to the gay bars with him. Even if he had told them, I still think he wouldn’t expect that out of them. So why me? Why am I the one that gets called up and guilt tripped about going to the gay bar? How do I get him to understand that he needs to get rid of this expectation from me, the same way he doesn’t have it for the rest of our friends. I like hanging out with him, I just don’t want to do it at a gay bar.

Why the gay lisp?

I don’t get it. Really I don’t. What’s wrong with someone just being gay, why do the whole voice changing thing? I can understand if someone is a transgender male to female wanting to sound more like a female to fit their new body and appearance. But I don’t get the whole gay lisp.

I know this isn’t true of all gay guys. I’ve met many gay guys in my lifetime and less then half of them spoke with the lisp. Honestly I have a hard time respecting gay guys that do have that lisp thing going on. I mean I can totally understand a guy wanting to sleep another guy. I get that. I just don’t get why you would suddenly want to talk a certain way and act all flamboyant.

I’m all for people being who they want to be. I just don’t get the appeal of this certain thing. It’s like they want to push the fact that they are gay. I’m not even sure I’d have as big of a problem with it if it wasn’t for the fact that most of those types act all snooty and superior to regular guys. Making comments about your waredrobe and hair style and everything else.

I once had one of these types as my hair dresser and he made a comment about my chest hair. Yeah well I’m not a big fan of it either, but the women I’ve been with seem to like it, so what’s the problem dude?

Goals for 2009

1. Grow my hair out. Don’t get it cut, just dead ends removed. This is going to get harder the warmer it gets.
2. Buy a DSLR (Nikon D90 or D40) and shoot lots of photos, building a new portfolio.
3. Get my credit fixed (apply for bankrupcy).
4. Save enough money to move out again.
5. Shoot a short film. You must do this in 2009.
6. Quite smoking.
7. Work out more.
8. Find a second income, one that isn’t illegal.
9. Eat better, more healthy
10. Organize my life better, including keeping things more tidy.
11. Redefine sexy for men. (aka – start designing my own clothing line)